Change in life can be disrupting, unsettling, scary and upsetting. Alternatively it can be energising, inspiring, a time for growth and maybe even exciting. It’s all down to you how you choose to perceive it and experience it.
One time I was in India I noticed a sign at the place I practised yoga each morning. “You are an organic being constantly evolving”.
This message stayed with me. The day after returning from that trip, after already deciding I would be returning the following year for much longer, I received a call telling me that my part time freelance work had been made redundant. In the midst of the recession they could no longer keep freelancers on board. This was a company I had worked in for about 10 years.
It was perfect timing. This set the wheels in motion for me to leave London, to spend 6 months in India and to become a yoga teacher. Of course in that moment when I received the call I was not aware that would happen. I had just got back from a 6 week holiday, with no money and kind of needed that work! Plus I enjoyed the work I had been doing, training and coaching within a company.
Still, those words sprung to mind and I even said to my manager “Life is constantly evolving, don’t worry I will be fine.” She had been so nervous to tell me I think she was relieved at how well I took it!
I have had other moments like this in my life, where unexpected things have happened that triggered a huge diversion. At the time I haven’t been so open minded and peaceful about it. One being discovering my partner of almost 8 years had been cheating on me for a year and a half. Yet when I look back it was still perfect, the chain of events that triggered after that completely changed my life, and have also led me to where and who I am today.
So what I am trying to say is that if you are going through a change now, unexpected or planned, know that it is perfect. Life really is full of changes, and it’s in the changes that we grow. We have an opportunity in change to choose who we are going to be, how we are going to deal with it, what we are going to learn from it and how we are going to use it for our highest good in the future.
A couple of week’s ago I wrote about the yama’s in Patanjali’s Yoga Sutra’s. One of them is Aparigraha which means non possesiveness, avoiding jealousy and non grasping. This can be interpreted as not being so hooked on things being a certain way, avoiding being possessive over people or things. When we can remain detached life can feel so much lighter.
It’s in being attached to people behaving in a certain way our outcomes going in a certain direction that we can cause ourselves pain.
I love this quote from T.K.V. Desikachar:
“The way that we see things today does not have to be the way we saw them yesterday. That is because the situations, our relationships to them, and we ourselves have changed in the interim. This notion of constant change suggests that we do not have to be discouraged.”
If you are in the middle of a big change, allow yourself moments to just be still, sit quietly and breathe. Allow change to wash over you and trust that it’s all working out perfectly. There is a reason why this is happening to you right now, one day you will look back and realise it was all happening in perfect timing.